Getting the guy is one thing, but getting his family to love you can be an entirely new challenge. If you’ve met someone you love, the next step is to integrate yourself into his family or at least ensure they like you. Follow our five step no-fail plan for getting his family to love you as much as he does.
Step 1: Get one-on-one time
How long should you wait before meeting the parents of a new boyfriend?
Immediately! I don't think it's a big deal.
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This is probably the most important step on our list and it can go a long way in helping you connect with his clan. If you can, try to get some one-on-one time with his mom. Slip into the kitchen when she's making coffee or cleaning up after dinner and thank her for having you over. She will most likely appreciate the fact that you've taken the time to approach her directly and it shows you want to make a good impression.
Step 2: Offer to help
No matter what (or even if your boyfriend tells you otherwise), always offer to lend a hand when you're visiting his parents. Clear the table, offer to slice and dice something for the salad or carry a tray of snacks from the kitchen to the coffee table. Even if his mom is adamant she doesn't need help, she will appreciate the fact that you asked. Do your part to assist his mom or dad and they'll see that you care about helping others.
Step 3: Be complimentary
Sometimes flattery will get you everywhere! When it comes to meeting his mom for the first time, saying something nice can go a long way when it comes to boosting your image. Don't overdo it (e.g. complimenting her on everything you lay eyes on), but be selective and praise something you genuinely love. Does she have great taste in art? Tell her. Was the Bundt cake you had for dessert delicious? Ask for the recipe. People love when you notice something they've worked hard on.
Step 4: Follow up
A few days after your visit, take the time to follow up with a phone call or email to his parents. It doesn't have to be lengthy; just enough to say thank you and that you enjoyed meeting his family. This would also be the perfect time to ask his mom for her lovely Bundt cake pie recipe.
Step 5: Repeat
Once often isn't enough to really ingratiate yourself with his family. Even if you didn't have the best time or you felt awkward, you need to go back and do it again. If you really love your guy and feel like he's the one, getting to know his family and building a good relationship with them is a must and that takes time and effort.