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26 March 2008 03:02 am
There are many things that can get wrong or from bad to worse in a relationship... it is depressing how many couples split-up because of stupid reasons. If you have the slightest feeling that your relationship is in jeopardy or if you inquire what went wrong in ex-relationships, take a look at the list below. There are 5 "don'ts" in a relationship.
26 March 2008 01:41 am
Just because someone is listening to me, I don't assume that they got the communication that I sent. Neither should you.
So after I say something, I have created the habit of asking my listener what s/he heard from me. I also like to check in on my own perceptions about what I've heard from someone.
25 March 2008 04:03 am
Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. It indicates a lack of confidence on your part. By acting in a jealous fashion you're essentially "telling her/him" that you don't feel worthy of her/his love, and that you're worried she's going to find one of the many, many guys/girls out there who are "better than" you.
24 March 2008 03:11 am
Commonly, men and women hold a distinction in their minds between themselves and their marriage. Their personal self is one thing and their marriage is another.
Perhaps this makes sense at certain levels, but when a marriage has fallen short of what it’s meant to be, this notion is problematic. It’s problematic because there’s often an unconscious concept that it’s the “marriage” that needs help rather than one’s self.
23 March 2008 03:52 am
It appears like you don’t have an idea of how to make a relationship work if you are reading this. Some men and women are skeptical characters; they like making relationships but are least interested in keeping it going under some pretext or the other. Let’s accept it; the hardest part of making a relationship work is to forgive each others mistakes. Looking back at how you learnt what is most irresistible about men/women may perhaps move you closer towards how to make a relationship work and how to turn pain to pride.
21 March 2008 04:18 am
Without effective communication, no relationship stands a chance. We talk (and listen) all day long, but only a small part of our communication takes place in words. Most of the time we believe the other is listening to and understanding what we saying, but by and large, this is not the case. Most of the time the other person is planning what he or she will say back, or tuning out, or building up some kind of fantasy that has nothing to do with what is going on at that moment.
20 March 2008 04:37 am
Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear motivates various forms of controlling behavior. Controlling behavior falls into two major categories – over control and covert control.
Over control includes many forms of attack, such as blaming anger, rage, violence, judgment, criticism and ridicule.
19 March 2008 03:46 am
One key ingredient to a healthy relationship is honesty. It is crucial that individuals in a relationship are completely upfront and honest with each other. This is important for a number of reasons. One reason for being honest deals with trust issues. If dishonesty exists, then there will be trust issues throughout the relationship which could very well make the relationship go downhill.
18 March 2008 03:34 am
A man was sick and tired of going to work every day while his wife stayed home.
He wanted her to see what he went through so he prayed:
I go to work every day and put in 8 hours while my wife merely stays at home.
I want her to know what I go through.
So, please allow her body to switch with mine for a day.
12 March 2008 08:05 am
Maintaining a marriage requires a significant amount of work. The demands of family and work life and several underlying factors can absolutely contribute to the demise of a successful relationship. It’s so easy to stray from ones daily mundane life or lose sight of ones responsibility towards their spouses. Further, the pressures of providing for the family, conflicting goals, increasing arguments, among other things make it possible to lose interest in each other and yearn for what lies beyond the marriage.